Then we got a call. I don't remember all of the details of the day because I was so young but I remember my Mom telling me that the baby that we were so excited to meet had went to Heaven that morning. They called it a stillbirth.
she was a beautiful little girl that they named Amy Lynn. I knew what she looked like because my Aunt always had a family picture displayed in their living room with the family holding Amy that day. It was just a snapshot but I know that the picture is so precious to them and any that they had taken that day because that is all that they had to remember what she looked like. And I am sure they want to remember her. Not the pain of losing her of course, but remember that she was there with them, if only for a few precious hours.
After Amy was born they went on to have two more precious baby girls a few years apart. Lisa, who is now in Heaven with her sister Amy from a pediatric brain cancer that she got when she was only 21 years old and died at age 23. The younger sister, Molly married a few years ago and we found out this past summer that she was going to have her first baby! We didn't know if she was having a boy or girl either and so we were also anticipating the birth of this sweet little one.
Then I got a call...
I was so heartbroken to hear that my dear cousin's baby went to Heaven that morning, just as it had happened 27 years before with my baby cousin Amy. I was just sobbing and cried a lot for a few days after I got off of the phone that day. How could this happen to two people in the same family and it not be a genetic thing? Both babies would have been perfect if they had not died. Both were perfectly healthy babies with no abnormalities whatsoever. Both were 40+ weeks gestation, which is very rare for one, let alone 2 babies in the same family circle to die from this. Amy was nine and a half pounds and Emett was around 7 lbs. 5.4 oz at birth. Both Mothers went to the hospital to give birth and no heartbeat was found. It was so sad, and it was so surreal. And seemed so unfair. I went up with Nora, and my Mom and my older sister to Minnesota to go to the funeral a few days later. My cousin was able to get free professional photos taken in the hospital the day that their sweet Emett Lee was with them. He also was such a beautiful baby. I am so glad they have an organization that does that for parents. It is called NILMDTS (Now I lay me down to sleep) I have even thought of applying to be a photographer for the organization because I really admire and believe in what they do.
A few weeks ago I saw an event on facebook that caught my eye. It was called Violet's day of kindness. Nancy and Nolan (Nolan I have known since preschool age and Nancy is his wife who happens to be a photographer too) had also had a stillborn baby named Violet. Instead of having a day filled with sadness on the day that she was born, they got to hear of all of the wonderful acts of kindness that people would do in honor and remembrance of their sweet baby girl and they would post what they did on their facebook page. You can read more of their story on her photography blog. She has a post that allows other people that she knew that have had a similar loss could tell their story.
So today, I am asking you to please join their facebook event and do a random act of kindness and let them know about it on their page. Share with your friends and family and see how many people we can get to join in spreading joy tomorrow, Saturday, October 11 and help them honor and remember their sweet baby Violet. October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month & I will do it in honor and remembrance of my sweet baby cousin Amy and my cousin's sweet baby Emett and all of the other babies and families who have an angel baby as well as baby Violet.
Violet, in Violet's day of kindness is their baby girl.